Hoʻoponopono

This is an ancient Hawaiian prayer: I love you. I am sorry. I forgive you. Thank you. Hoʻoponopono is a practice of forgiveness. When something happens between you and another person you can feel hurt, guilty or ashamed. When you repeat these words you accept total responsibility for what happened in your life AND for the other person. As the…

anger

There are so many emotions we never talk about, and one of them is anger. When I was a child I was feisty. I could get aggressive to the point I could murder. This aggression was mainly aimed at my little brother, like most kids I loved and hated him at the same time. We…

life

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” ― Mary Oliver  

carcassonne

I went away to Carcassonne for a couple of days to write (and take looong baths, get a new haircut and drink some wine). I stayed with our dear friends who used to live in our little village, and then opened an amazing B&B in Carcassonne last autumn. It was a treat to be stay with you…

the school of life

  On Friday April 3rd I will give my very first course at The School of Life! The School of Life is devoted to developing emotional intelligence through the help of culture and is a place to step back and think intelligently about central emotional concerns. The course is called ‘What is success? (and does it makes…

the nonsense trap

When life gets serious, you realize how much stupid things have come to matter. Trying to decrease my dairy intake or blaming myself not to get up immediately when the alarm clock rings. Worrying about a to-do list, clean house or missed phone calls. I don’t care anymore what anyone thinks of me. I don’t care about…

picture perfect

I think we often don’t realize how much our lives are based on pictures we have of how things should be. It blurs the mind for anything else, we just try and put the picture together. I think I am quite a free spirit, but again and again I bump into these pictures: “No it…

frenchies

Max came home with his ‘devoirs’, full of – what else – food and nationalism. What to eat as a child: meat What not to drink as a child: cognac The holidays start today, two whole weeks of holidays every two months. Playing in the snow and feeding the donkeys. And the parents are off to Barcelona, giving the…

Why does everything start with light?

My world is dark right now but so much light comes in from unexpected places, to show me the way. We think we need to heal and rescue the person we love, but we have to heal and rescue ourselves first, because through that we heal and rescue each other. There is no other way to be together and…

stephen king

I just finished the memoir of Stephen King. I had never read anything he wrote before because I am not a real suspense lover. But after reading a review about this 15 year old book I ordered it immediately and it turns out to be one of the best, useful and truest books I’ve read in years….